Massachusetts Divorce Mediation FAQs

The Co-Worker Rule is a simple rule of thumb for mediation participants who are struggling to set aside their anger or difficult history with their spouse. The rule states that spouses should seek to interact and communicate like co-workers in a professional environment instead of like former spouses. Although it sounds simple, divorcing spouses often find it difficult to create appropriate boundaries after so many years of sharing their unfiltered thoughts with one another. The Co-Worker Rule provides a simple standard of conduct that most individuals can understand and attempt to observe. For more information, check out Kim Keyes’ blog, Setting Boundaries During Divorce: The Co-Worker Rule.

In many divorce mediations, one or both participants’ inability to move past their negative emotions is a primary impediment to reaching resolution. A spouse’s anger can undermine the negotiation process, and participants are often required to process negative emotions during the process in order to succeed. Luckily, divorce mediators use a variety of techniques to translate negative emotions into more productive, settlement-positive motivations during the mediation process. For details, check out Nicole Levy’s blog, Overcoming Negative Emotions in the Mediation Process.